I was lucky enough to be asked to speak on LBC Radio this morning about absent fathers.
Shortly after I finished speaking, I received this email:
I heard you on the radio this morning and it really made me sad.
Your Ex sounds like a real scumbag and I can see that he has hurt you, but you have no idea of the damage you are doing to your daughter, I think it is very selfish of you.
A child needs TWO parents and whilst I understand where you are coming from I think you owe your daughter the chance of a well adjusted happy life, with all of her emotional needs being met and that can't happen with one parent. You will find out down the road that she will be very insecure with boys in her teen years and later on fail to be able to sustain a normal relationship with a man, then so the cycle will continue for another generation.
Forgive me for saying it but sometime the truth is painful, it seems to me from reading your blog that you have some way to go with regard to your own mental health.
I urge you to put the past behind you and stop using your daughter as some sort of validation, she is a human being and you have been given the privilege of raising her. So stop celebrating your "single mother" status and put your child FIRST in everything.
I'm unsure as to how to respond, or indeed whether to bother. It seems the single mother hatred is alive and well in the UK this morning.